The Silent Struggle: Trust Issues

 Trust is the foundation for any healthy relationship, whether it’s with a partner, family member, friend, or colleague. However, trust can be fragile, and once broken, it can be challenging to rebuild. Trust issues can arise from past experiences, insecurities, and fears, and they can significantly impact our interactions  and relationships. In this blog post, I want to share my personal journey through trust issues, their effects, and how I've tried to overcome them.

     Trust issues have been a part of my life for as long as I remember. Whether it was the result of past betrayals or simply the fear of being hurt, the ability to fully trust others has always been a challenge or I trust too easily and still get hurt. Trust issues have had a profound impact on my relationships. Distrust created a barricade , leading to constant suspicion and misunderstandings. It affected my self-esteem, making me feel like I was unworthy of love and support. Communication became my worst enemy and so did resolving conflicts.

First I just want to say I’m so sorry, if you’ve experienced this or experienced any trauma. Please feel free to reach out to me or anyone here for help and support. This is why I started this blog. Women need to stick together.


My Personal Story : 

When looking back at my high school years, one person stands out vividly: my first boyfriend. He taught me how to love, and for awhile, i genuinely believed he could be my Mr. Right. our love story didn’t begin with the innocence, it should’ve had. Granted we started dating after he told my best friend at the time that he wanted to show me what real love should look like but failed.


However, we did share countless memories, laughter, and we did dream of the future from time to time. Stupid? Right? Ha silly me. As time passed, life threw some difficult challenges our way that neither of us were prepared to handle. We tried dating a few times, hoping that each attempt would be the one that worked, but it always ended in heartbreak. The lessons learned from these experiences were profound, shaping who I am today.


It wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies. These trials we went through was on both of us and we hurt the ones we love the most. ladies don't get me wrong, he did some of all the good things but actions speak louder than words. I don't want to get into too much detail, but now every relationship I’ve been in since him hasn’t been easy on me emotionally. Now I have walls built up so high and so thick that the next guy has to write a three thousand word essay to show me that he wants me.


Seems like my picker may be broken because I put myself through the hardest, I don’t know where my heart is. Sometimes I feel like I have nothing left to give.  So ladies, don’t let that stop you from Loving your significant other as loudly as you do, but reach out if those thoughts get a little too loud, if you know what i mean!


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